I recently decided that, on occasion, comfort should trump cuteness when considering what to wear and how to do my hair. You are probably wondering why I would think anything else, unless you know me well. You see, chances are pretty good that you will never see me without mascara (even
in the pool or while backpacking in the mountains) and I am not one to stay in my pajamas all day unless I am seriously sick or they are doubling as work clothes for a full day of painting/using power tools/gardening. I even get dressed in the hospital the day after having a baby. Now, I am not suggesting that these things have changed, but I have modified my thinking slightly.
For example, I don't look cute in shorts...never have, never will...so I don't wear them. I own 1 pair of shorts - truly - and they are reserved for hiking...or at least they were. But, it is hot and I have to haul around 3 kids with me and play outside with them all day and clean the house and cook food, not to mention the number of clothing layers I wear, etc. etc. So, lately I have been wearing said pair of shorts more frequently. I realize that they are not cute, nor flattering to my taking-way-too-long-to-bounce-back-after-baby-number-3-body, but they are cooler than
capris and more comfy than jeans.
So here's my thinking...on days when Seth is working and I have no big plans (big plans being things like playgroups, outings to somewhere other than
McDonalds, and any other event where I will see people I know that are over the age of 4), what is the point of being uncomfortable for the sake of looking cute? I still put on makeup, do my hair and get dressed, but my kids don't care if my hair is in a ponytail or if Mommy's shorts don't flatter her figure. In the past I have used the reasoning that Seth appreciates his wife looking cute, but when he works at 7, he leaves before I get up and gets home when I have usually already changed into my pj's and put my hair in a ponytail. When he works at 11, we usually do yard work in the morning (in work clothes, of course) and I have been in my
jammies (and possibly even asleep) for hours by the time he gets home.
But after today, I am throwing in the
towel on being comfy and getting back to the "cute is way more important than comfy" thinking I used to espouse. You may be wondering why? Why am I throwing in the
towel and why am I crazy enough to think I still need to look cute every day when I am a stay at home mom of 3 and have been married for 6 years?
Well, here's why: Today, while wearing my ugly shorts with a top that did not look cute with them (nothing does, but this one
really didn't, I was just too lazy to pick out something else after I put it on), I ran to get some diaper genie refills and
sippy cups from Target while the kids played at Grandma's house. As I am headed to the exit doors with purchases in hand, I see a guy I used to date. He looked happy and pretty much the same as he did the last time I saw him and normally I would have loved to chat and catch up, but instead all I could think about the whole time was -
I can't believe I am wearing these ugly shorts today!!! Sure,
I know I have been taking care of 3 kids all day, and
I know that my youngest child is barely 6 months old, and
I know that I am happily married to the greatest man alive and
I know that I have been pureeing apricots to jam and making fruit leather all day, and
I know that I look exhausted because I lost track of time hanging out with Seth by the
firepit in our backyard last night and didn't realize how late it was until the sprinklers came on at 11:45 pm and we had to grab our chairs and run to keep from getting soaked, but this guy...
he didn't know any of that. He just had to assume that I have gotten a lot fatter and less attractive since he last saw me.
sigh. Now, I realize that this thinking is totally irrational, unfounded and probably sounds very
Seriously So Blessed, but it is the way my brain works (and don't get all self-conscious if I have ever seen you answer the door in your pj's or I have seen you without mascara on...I don't have these irrational expectations for anyone else...just me...I know...I'm crazy).
So, I ask you, is it better to feel awkwardly self-conscious when you run into people you don't want to see when you don't look
adorable, or irritated that the only people who saw that your hair looks totally awesome today are covered in their own dinner and want to wipe their hands on your cute outfit? I am thinking I'll pick the latter. Thus, you can consider the
towel thrown!